Lily S, so hot right now
I’m sure many, many young women have many, many horrifying stories about bad dates. Dates with excess drool, dates obsessed with their ex-girlfriends, dates with serious mental illnesses, dates with foul-smelling skin diseases, dates who think Shoney’s is an acceptable dinner destination, etc. I sympathize with victims of these kind of dates.
Luckily, I have never had a single bad date. Not ever. You know why? Because I’ve never been on a real date.
I honestly don’t understand why guys don’t ask me out. I’m friendly, but not slutty. I have (some) moral standards, but I’m not a prude. I have decent taste in music (in my opinion), but I don’t get all pretentious about it. I enjoy partying, like any college student should, but I also enjoy a quiet night in. I’m opinionated but open-minded. Outgoing but not obnoxious.
Let’s see, what else makes me amazing and prime dating material? I can read. I don’t have any alternate personalities. I like an adventure. I’m not hideous or obese. I’m a natural blonde, for Christ’s sake! Doesn’t that count for anything anymore? All of these things seem like qualities I would like in a guy, but apparently the same standards don’t apply for women.
College boys either want to be buddies or they want to skip the whole relationship bit and get immediately in my pants (not happening – just let it go). OR they are still dating their high school girlfriends (who are STILL in high school!), but that’s another rant for another day.
God, I’m not even that picky! My only requirement for a date (a simple DATE, I’m not asking for marriage here!) is that a guy not be in prison and maybe brush his teeth on a regular basis.
Maybe it’s just that the art of dating is dying. People don’t date anymore, they just talk or text or Facebook message or IM. Do guys think that if you go on a date with someone that you are automatically not allowed to date other people? Because that’s not how dating works. Even I, as a non-dater, know this much.
So the question remains: Why the hell do I go to parties on weekends with a group of perfectly datable dateless GIRLS? I like my friends, but some male companionship that isn’t some drunken frat boy trying to grope me would be really nice every once and a while.
Guys, some of you have brains. Will you please just fucking use them?
Rantasaurus Says: Umm… I know we just met but… I… uh… marry me. Seriously.
LOL!!! Awesome!
Okay, let’s get married! Is June too soon?
The only thing I can assume is that you might be overweight. And I’m not saying that to be mean, because I am and I’m in the same situation as you are. I can actually get plenty of dates and plenty of guys that think I’m good enough to sleep with but I haven’t had an actual boyfriend in nearly 3 years. I’m good enough for everything but that and I tend to blame it on the fact that guys are shallow and I’m not some skinny barbie chick (nevermind I’m cute as hell!).
So yeah, I could’ve totally written this rant myself and I sympathize with you. I totally do!
Where do you and all of these dateless girls live? Cause I am a decent, hardworking, loving, loyal kind of guy who has the exact same problem…don’t know what it is, but I am dateless also. Oh, yeah, I also bathe and brush my teeth on a daily basis, work out at the gym and dress nicely. I don’t have tattoos or a prison record but somehow your cohorts and counterparts still often look at me like I came from under some big heavy rock and am still wearing the bugs and debris of that sort of living. So, it seems to me like both sides can have the same rant. Good luck in your search.
Haha. Thanks for just assuming I must be fat. Actually, no. I’m not Kate Moss, but I’m also not…Kathy Bates. What’s really sad is that Kathy Bates is the only fat famous female I can think of right now. Ricki Lake. There we go. I’m not Ricki Lake (thankfully). Mo’Nique? Tracy Turnblad? Rosie O’Donnell? Post-K-Fed Britney Spears? Anyway, I lead a fairly healthy, active lifestyle. Going to Kenya for three weeks tomorrow. It takes real muscle power to squat over latrines in the East African bush. (Sentences like that must be why guys don’t ask me out). The point is that I know plenty of fatter/dumber/sluttier girls that have boyfriends yet completely worthy, intelligent women like me and you, Fizzy, get ignored except for the occasional sexual harassment. And ImaTownClown, girls can be just as shallow as guys, it’s true. It seems to be a (growing) quality of humanity. I bet all of us would get more dates if we all spent a lot less time on the internet.
I hope you didn’t take offense to what I said Lily. I didn’t mean it in a mean way, I meant in the Guys are shallow and dumb and only want girls that look like Kate Moss no matter how stupid, slutty or superficial they are. I just assumed because I’ve had the same problem and I figure it’s only because I’m not super thin. I’m definitely not Kathy Bates either, but I’ve got some meat on my bones and a ghetto booty. I like it that way too, unfortunately lots of guys are shallow and only want the model thin girls no matter how many perfectly cute, attractive, nice, smart girls who are out there wishing they could get a chance but won’t for some stupid reason or another.
Anyway, have fun in Kenya! I really didn’t mean anything by the fat comment. I was just trying to relate.
Girl, I know! I got nothin’ but love! Off to the airport.
I think the whole blog is hilarious, in my opinion it’s not what you look like but how you allow the world to perceives you. Take myself for example, at one point I was in the NAVY and trained with the SEALS. Top of my game, greatest shape of my life and hardly ever went out on dates. Got out of the NAVY and went to college, stopped working out and always had dates (some that I wish I never went on….PSYCHO!). But the key thing that I found out was in my case at least it has alot to do with self confidence and how you hold yourself in the ‘public eye.’ By nature people are drawn to someone that can stand on their own two feet with their head held high, I might be full of it but this is just how it seems to me. BTW Lily, you are a very beautiful woman and anyone that doesn’t see that is someone that you’re better off without. I recently got engaged and I have to say that I’m so glad that I waited, she’s the pure bliss in my life and when I’m with her nothing else matters. Good luck to all of you and your search for the other half that you so desire. Thanks to everyone for letting me drop a quick note in on here…
Best advice is to put yourself out there, instead of having to rant. Surrounding yourself with a gaggle of equally eligible but dateless girls probably isn’t the best solution to your dilemma. Also, you probably avoid some very interesting men because – well, they are interesting. If they are dressed and behaving like everyone else, chances are they have little to offer in way of personality.
Morality has little use in trying to get a date. Besides, whatever is moral is socially constructed and generally worthless.